The hanky and other codes This is a page full of codes. Including the "complete and unabridged" hanky-code. For those of you who do not know about it: the hanky code works as follows. You have a hanky hanging out of your back pocket. If it is worn on the left the person is a Dom, worn on the right means sub. Having a hanky hanging out of each of your back pockets always means: "looking for someone, don't matter what role I have to play". The different colours have different meanings. The hanky code is mainly used by the gay community, however, some heteros do use some of them. Codes in general are getting outdated. As - even in the "difficult" countries - sex is becoming something you can talk about, there is no longer a need to use them. However, sometimes you will find some of them used at parties. In general, indications of whatever kind, worn left (so in the left backpocket, on the left shoulder or on the left wrist for example) indicates the person want to be in the dominant role. As a result of this, right very obviously stands for submissive. Studs - although hardly ever used anymore, there still is a left-over code based on the studs on, for example, collars or leather wristbands. Pointed studs, according to this code, indicate dominant, flat studs indicate submissive. Objects - another outdated code is based on objects (wirstbands, whips or keyrings for example). Again, if the object is worn left (or hanging from a belt on the left side), this again indicates dominance and right as a result indicates submissive. Some even do this with (ear) piercings. Secret signals - Unlike the gay communitiy erotic power exchange does not have a common symbol. However, people will sometimes ty to indicate their preference, for example with small (keyring) handcuffs or jewelry. However, since all of these are not generally used, this sometimes leads to very confusing situations. Handkerchief code Color/fabric: Means: black heavy S&M leather leather fetish grey bondage charcoal latex navy/dark blue intimate sex included medium blue into "police" games robin egg blue 69 or "French" (oral sex both) light blue oral sex by bottom only teal blue genital torture kelly green into "hooker" game khaki/olive into "military" games hunter green daddy lime green sex with food lemon enema cream licking pale yellow spitting doily/yellow watersports (urine games) beige rimming (licking anus) gold into threesomes mustard big penis (has one or wants one) apricot wants overweight partner coral foot worship orange anything, anytime rust into "cowboy" games or pony girl fuchsia spanking red anal fisting light pink dildo dark pink breast/nipple torture burgundy razors/knifing/scarification red polka dots menstruating mauve navel fetish magenta armpit fetish purple piercing lavender drag brown scat (feces games) brown lace not circumcised brown satin circumcised grey flannel "square" (suits, cocktail dresses, black tie) white whipping, flogging red/white stripes shaving black/white stripes likes partner of different (black) race brown/white stripes likes partner of different (Latino) race yellow/white stripes likes partner of different (oriental) race white lace likes partner of different (white) race paisley into boxer shorts fur animals included silver lame romantic gold lame like body builder types leopard tattoos tan smoking (cigars) is a must Kleenex into smelly games handy wipe into oil and grease chamois motorcycles cocktail napkin bar type Other indications Indication Menas: teddy bear on leather jacket likes cuddling kewpie doll afraid, uncertain, novice mosquito net outdoor sex keys your place or mine negotiable rope into Japanese bondage electric plug into electrical play toothbrush cannot play at my own place sweat band wrestling, no rules plastic fork dinner included celery brunch included metal (cock)ring on leather jacket seeking exciting sex