EVA:The way back for the Backslider  by Richard W. De Haan

   The Marks of a Backslider

   Almost every day we learn from the news media about some upright and
productive citizen who has gotten himself into trouble. How pitiful it
is to see such a person lose his job, desert his family, and become a
failure! We feel the same way whenever a man whose name was once held
in great respect has fallen into disrepute.

   It's even more pathetic, however, when someone begins slipping
without even realizing what's happening to him. He's not doing his work
quite as well. He is not as concerned about grooming and appearance as
he used to be. He is becoming lax in paying his bills. Or maybe he's
angry more often; he is growing more coarse in his language; he is
showing less concern for his loved ones. His friends shake their heads
in dismay as they see what's happening. They may even offer him advice
and help, but he just refuses to listen.

   Yes, a gradual decline like that is heartbreaking to watch, but it's
more tragic when a trend begins to happen in the spiritual realm. Sorry
to say, it happens all too often. Believers in Christ gradually,
bit-by-bit begin to drift away from fellowship with the Lord.
Little-by-little they give in to self and to Satan. The light of faith
that once burned so brightly in their hearts has flickered and grown
dim, and they've become indifferent to God and the church. Somehow, as
the months or years slip past, they wander far away from the Lord.

   Friend, if what I've been talking about is happening to you or to
one of your loved ones, this series of messages is meant for you. Its
purpose is twofold: (1) to show you how to tell if you've wandered away
from the Lord, and if you have, (2) to encourage you to come back to
the Father and home. In this first lesson we will think together about
five marks of a backslider. They are:

   1. He has no interest in Christian fellowship.

   2. He has no desire to attend church.

   3. He has no personal or family devotions.

   4. He has no burden for others.

   5. He has no spiritual sensitivity.

   Let's discuss these characteristics one by one. The first mark of a
believer who needs to "come home" is that he has:

   NO INTEREST IN CHRISTIAN FELLOWSHIP

   Could this be a description of you? You once enjoyed spending time
with other believers. You actually welcomed the opportunities to
discuss spiritual matters, to talk about Christian experiences, and to
pray with other about things of mutual concern. You chose your best
friends from among fellow believers, and you had no problem identifying
with them. But now things are different. You just don't like being with
Christians anymore - at least those who are committed believers. Any
talk about God or the Bible makes you feel uncomfortable. You find
fault with your former friends, and you accuse them of being
pharisaical or hypocritical. You're spending more and more time with
non-Christian companions, and you're doing things now that you would
never have thought of doing before.

   If that portrays you, you are in need of spiritual restoration.
Something is wrong, and you know it. Way down inside you are miserable.
As a backslidden Christian, you are unhappy and frustrated.

   The reason you feel that way is that you are going against your new
nature as a believer in Christ. The moment you received the Lord Jesus
you were given new spiritual life. You were born into the family of
God. But now your behavior is inconsistent with your identity as His
child. You are spending time with people who have an entirely different
view of life. You need to come back to the Heavenly Father.

   The inspired psalmist indicated in Psalm 1 that the "blessed" person
is one who does not improperly associate with those who are evildoers.
He wrote:

   Blessed is the man who walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly,
nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the
scornful. But his delight is in the law of the Lord; and in His law
doth he meditate day and night (Psalm 1:1, 2).

   I encourage you to renew your friendship with those who know and
love the Lord. Seek their companionship. Identify yourself with the
people of God who are committed to doing His will. When you do, you
will have taken that first giant step on the way home to joy and
spiritual peace.

   A second mark often detected in a backslidden Christian is that he
has:

   NO DESIRE TO ATTEND CHURCH

   Often when a Christian refuses to gather with other believers for
worship, he has a need for spiritual restoration. (You understand, of
course, that I'm talking about those who are able to attend a good,
gospel-preaching, Bible-teaching fellowship of believers, but who
deliberately avoid it.) The author of Hebrews wrote:

   And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good
works, Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the
manner of some is, but exhorting one another, and so much the more, as
ye see the day approaching (Hebrews 10:24, 25).

   Every believer who is physically able should attend church. When
other believers have gathered to honor the Lord, he should not be in a
fishing boat, on a golf course, or even relaxing around the house. If
he's neglectful of being in God's house, he needs to find his way back
home.

   We are told that the believers of the early church "continued
steadfastly in the apostles' doctrine and fellowship, and in breaking
of bread, and in prayers" (Acts 2:42). We also read this about them:

   And they, continuing daily with one accord in the temple, and
breaking bread from house to house, did eat their food with gladness
and singleness of heart, Praising God, and having favor with all the
people. And the Lord added to the church daily such as should be saved
(Acts 2:46, 47).

   I realize that in our society it's easy to become negligent in the
matter of church attendance. Weekend outings, mini-vacations, and
recreational activities are strong competitors. Furthermore, some would
argue, "We are not under the law. We're not obligated to observe
sabbath regulations. Let's not be legalistic about it."

   But the fact remains that failure to assembly with other believers
for worship, for instruction, and for Christian fellowship is to miss
out on one of God's gracious provisions for spiritual growth and
blessing. Just to continue sending in your weekly check, remember, is
no substitute for being there. I would encourage you, therefore, to get
back into a regular routine of church attendance, and to do so as soon
as possible. Join with fellow Christians in singing the hymns of
praise. Unite with them in prayer. Pay close attention as the Word of
God is proclaimed in the sermon. As you sincerely do those things, you
will soon be back in fellowship with the Lord.

   The third mark of a wayward believer is that he has:

   NO PERSONAL OR FAMILY DEVOTIONS

   Not only do we miss out on a special blessing when we fail to gather
with fellow believers for worship, prayer, and the preaching of God's
Word, but we are also losers when we do not allow time for personal
communion with our Father in heaven. The Lord Jesus Himself
demonstrated for us the importance of talking alone with God. During
His earthly ministry He was engaged in prayer on different occasions
with the Father in solitude. WE should follow His example. Jesus told
His disciples:

   But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy room, and when thou hast
shut thy door, pray to thy Father, who is in secret; and thy Father,
who seeth in secret, shall reward thee openly (Matthew 6:6).

   In addition to personal, private prayer, family devotions are
vitally important. We are to bring up our children "in the nurture and
admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4). If you neglect reading the
Bible to them, if you fail to give them instruction in holy living, and
if you do not pray with them, you are not obeying God's commandment to
parents. Oh, I know that sometimes it is difficult to squeeze in time
for personal devotions, much less to get the family together.
Everyone's so busy -- all going off in different directions. But if
you're honest, you'll admit that if you really try you can find the
time. The spiritual benefits both for you and your loved ones will more
than repay the efforts involved. You'll draw closer as a family, and
you'll experience the joy of restoration to God's favor.

   This brings us to a fourth mark of the Christian who is backslidden.
He has:

   NO BURDEN FOR OTHERS

   A backslidden Christian will lack concern for the spiritual needs of
his fellowman. Yes, one of the first signs of slippage is a failure to
do what we can to carry the message of Christ to a lost and dying
world. New Christians often start out by enthusiastically telling
everyone they can about the Lord Jesus and salvation. They seize every
opportunity to give their testimony, and their eyes sparkle as they
speak of their conversion. But something begins to happen. They become
lukewarm. They lose their first love. They no longer have a burden for
souls. They lose their zeal in witnessing. The flame of gratitude to
God and compassion for the lost needs rekindling.

   The fifth mark of a backslidden Christian is that he has:

   NO SPIRITUAL SENSITIVITY

   The sharp edge of his commitment to Christ and his obedience to the
Word has been blunted. He is no longer concerned about the will of God.
Usually this shows up first in his attitude toward sin. The obedient
Christian, you see, is disturbed by all forms of evil. Living in close
fellowship with the Lord, he is grieved both by his own sin and that of
others. He is well aware that it's the antithesis of all he knows and
loves.

   But how quickly one can slip back into his old sinful way of life!
Almost imperceptibly, his attitudes change. He begins to do things that
are contrary to the will of God. Finding lame excuses for his behavior,
he condones practices he knows he should not tolerate. He is no longer
grieved over the sins of others. He doesn't want to avail himself of
the power of God to overcome evil and lead him to spiritual victory.

   Friend, if that is a description of you, you're backsliding. You
need a new conviction of sin and a revived abhorrence of evil. The
agony of Christ in Gethsemane and upon Calvary's cross was because of
sin -- yours and mine. It is sin that brought all the suffering and
grief into this world. No Christian must be indifferent to it, in his
own life or in that of others.

   Let me conclude by asking you to examine your own personal
relationship to the Lord. You might begin by reviewing the five marks
of a backslidden Christian: 1. No interest in Christian fellowship. 2.
No desire to attend church. 3. No personal or family devotions. 4. No
burden for others. 5. No spiritual sensitivity.

   Could it be that you must honestly say: "I'm backslidden! I have to
get right with God. I need to come home." If that's the case with you,
do it -- and do it now!

   Your first step is to confess your sin to the Lord. First John 1:9
assures us that:

   If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our
sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

   Then, accepting God's forgiveness, renounce your wrongdoing. Find
your companions from among God's children. Return to church. Establish
and maintain a continuing relationship with Christ through private and
family devotions. Witness to others of His redeeming love. As you do
these things, you'll rediscover that the Christian life can be truly
wonderful!

   Why Christians Fall

   As the years pass by, many believers lose the enthusiasm, zeal, and
love for Christ they once had. With that in mind, F. B. Meyer, in his
book Light on Life's Duties, made this observation: "The story of the
lost chord has been told in exquisite verse and in stately music. We
have all heard of the lady who, in the autumn twilight which softly
filled the room, laid her fingers on the open keys of a glorious organ.

   She knew not what she was playing, Or what she was dreaming then;
But she struck one chord of music, Like the sound of a great Amen.

   It flooded the crimson twilight, Like the close of an angel's psalm,
And it lay on her fevered spirit With the touch of infinite calm;

   It quieted pain and sorrow, Like love overcoming strife; It seemed
the harmonious echo From our discordant life.

   It linked all perplexed meanings Into one perfect peace, And
trembled away into silence, As if it were loath to cease.

   "Something called her away, and when she returned to the organ, she
had lost that chord sublime. Though she longed for it, and sought it,
it wall all in vain. It was a lost chord." Meyer observed: "Whenever I
hear that story, it reminds me of the lost joy, the lost peace, the
lost power of which so many Christians complain."

   A friend of mine told me that in all his years of being a pastor,
one of the most pathetic questions he ever heard was this: "Preacher,
how in the world did I ever get where I am today?" The man who asked it
was sobbing as he sat across the table in the visiting room of the
county jail. Arrested the previous night, he had been charged with
being drunk. A few short years before, he had commanded a good salary,
was faithful in church attendance, and lived happily with his wife and
children. But he had started to slip -- not much at first, but as the
months went by he lost his job, his wife filed for divorce, and his
reputation was shattered. Now he had nothing!

   What causes men and women to fall like this? Why are some once-godly
church members now far from the Lord? What leads to the miserable,
unhappy condition that calls for spiritual restoration? I don't know
all the factors involved, but perhaps I can put my finger on at least a
few of the reasons Christians fall. I have observed four basic
tendencies that are often causes for backsliding. They are:

   1. Giving in to our weaknesses.

   2. Placing the temporal above the eternal.

   3. Taking our blessings for granted.

   4. Letting sorrow or disappointment overcome us.

   Self-evaluation can be profitable. I therefore encourage you, as we
think about these causes for spiritual decline, to look closely at your
own life. Ask yourself this question: "Am I in need of spiritual
restoration?" A correction now may save you years of heartache later
on, and it will bring true joy back into your life.

   The first reason many Christians stray from the Lord is this:

   They Give In To Their Weaknesses

   There are "blind spots" in the temperament of Christians that are
open to the attack of Satan. They find it difficult to exercise
self-control in those areas. We all have areas of vulnerability, and
somehow the devil seems to know every one of them. You can be sure that
he will concentrate his attacks at those places.

   One man in particular comes to mind. He was easy-going and tolerant.
He related well to others. He had many friends. He found it difficult
to say "no" to anyone. But those very things -- his likable disposition
and his love of people -- became his weaknesses. When he was out with
the crowd, he would go along with whatever they did. He often
compromised his convictions because he just hated to offend anyone. And
because he habitually gave in to his weaknesses, he became a poor
husband, father, and provider. His testimony was seriously hindered.

   As I indicated, everyone has his areas of weakness. Some people are
withdrawn and moody. Others are perfectionists. Still others are
headstrong and impulsive. We should therefore be honest with ourselves
and recognize our vulnerabilities. As we acknowledge what they are, we
should be on guard continually lest we fall. We should avoid every
circumstance that might make a special appeal to our sinful tendencies.
As we ask the Lord for help, we will overcome. The power of God is
greater than any temptation of the evil one.

   A second underlying cause for backsliding among many Christians is
this:

   They Take Their Blessings For Granted

   It is possible to be special objects of God's love and to be the
recipients of His manifold blessings (a good job, a healthy family, and
a successful business), and yet forget all about the One who gave us
these things in the first place. We fail to remember that:

   Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh
down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither
shadow of turning (James 1:17).

   When we are richly blessed of the Lord and fail to recognize the
true source of all the good things, we tend in our fallen human nature
to become self-satisfied and to feel self- sufficient. We fail to rely
on the Lord the way we should. We neglect Him, trusting only in
ourselves.

   I am reminded of these words of Moses:

   When thou hast eaten and art full, then thou shalt bless the Lord
thy God for the good land which He hath given thee. Beware that thou
forget not the Lord thy God, in not keeping His commandments, and His
ordinances, and His statutes, which I command thee this day, Lest, when
thou hast eaten and art full and hast built goodly houses, and dwelt
therein; And when thy herds and thy flocks multiply, and thy silver and
thy gold are multiplied, and all that thou hast is multiplied; then
thine heart be lifted up, and thou forget the Lord thy God, who brought
thee forth out of the land of Egypt, from the house of bondage.
(Deuteronomy 8:10- 14).

   These words of warning are needed just as much now in this 20th
century as they were in ancient Israel's day. Human nature doesn't
change. We are prone to take our blessings for granted, to give
ourselves the credit for our successes, and to assume that we'll always
have good health.

   Missionaries working in depressed areas of the world report that the
poverty-stricken often seem much more grateful for what they have than
we who enjoy so much more. Oh, we may say a prayer of thanks, but too
often there is no real appreciation. Yes, taking God's blessings for
granted and failing to recognize and acknowledge His goodness can lead
to spiritual decline. When we count our blessings, therefore, let us
remember from whom they come, and be careful to express our gratitude
to Him in both what we say and what we do.

   A fourth reason why some believers backslide is this:

   The Let Sorrow Overcome Them

   Some Christians go into a tailspin of self-pity or anger against God
when tragedy strikes them. A certain man told his minister that when
two of his children died in auto accidents within a year, he felt a
spirit of rebellion well up within him. He quit reading the Bible, he
refused to go to church, and he prayed very little. But he finally
realized that he was the loser. He saw that he was shutting himself off
from the special grace and strength he needed from God. And in time he
came back home to the Lord.

   I wonder, could it be that you have allowed some disappointment or
sorrow to overcome you? As a result, you are resentful toward the Lord.
You're angry and bitter today. You're out of fellowship with Him.
You're miserable and unhappy, and you know it. I would encourage you to
read Romans 8:28 -- and believe it!

   The Christian who really takes God at His Word will be sustained and
victorious even through the most difficult trials and deepest sorrows
of life. The one who doubts God's Word, however, may be overcome by his
disappointment and go down to spiritual defeat.

   In the light of what we've been discussing, I remind you of this old
saying: "An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure". Yes,
preventive medicine is extremely important. The more quickly a disease
is detected and treated, the less serious will be its consequences. The
same is true in the spiritual realm.

   If you have backslidden and are far from the Lord, the way home to
joy and fellowship is open to you. It's the pathway of confession,
commitment, and submission. The Lord stands ready to forgive you if you
are willing to acknowledge and forsake your sins.

   I received a letter from Pastor Raymond Biddle some time ago, and
this is what he wrote: "Our church has a good, clear-ringing bell, but
yesterday we were ashamed of it. THe first dull sound sent me looking
for the bell-ringer, who soon found out what was wrong. Nearly an inch
of snow and sleet had blown on it during a night storm, and
consequently it was thoroughly encased in ice. What a poor call to
worship it gave! The Lord then impressed the thought upon my heart that
Christians can become sheathed on the sound-deadening things of the
world. As a result, their witness becomes ice-encased."

   With this thought in mind, I emphasize that it is both our duty and
our privilege as believers in Christ to give forth a clear-ringing
testimony. Yet how often our words and deeds are muted by the ice of
this world. It covers up and deadens the sound of our testimony. And
the devil rejoices when Christians are drawn away from the Lord and
become so cold spiritually that they ice up. Some of the ices that
encase believers are pride, jealousy, materialism, hatred, lying,
gossip and envy. The best way to prevent this from happening is to be
diligent in prayer, in studying God's Word, and in maintaining our
fellowship with other believers. The Bible assures us:

   If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our
sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness (1 John 1:9).

   Doing that, you will be taking your first and all-important step in
finding your way back to the Father and home. May God help you, right
now, to do so, and to pray in the words of that wonderful old hymn:

   I've tired of sin and straying, Lord -- Now I'm coming home; I'll
trust Thy love, believer Thy word -- Lord, I'm coming home.

   Facts About Backsliders

   Christians do backslide. That's a fact we cannot deny. Many people
today who made a profession of faith in Christ have drifted far from
the Lord spiritually. Some still attend church, while others never go
at all. Some are living rather respectable, moral lives, while others
are living in open sin. Some still have their jobs, attractive homes,
and families, while others have lost everything. Some acknowledge they
are wrong and admit their unhappiness, while others defend themselves
and insist they're having a wonderful time. Some are plagued with
serious doubts, while others have given themselves wholeheartedly to
their sensual and selfish desires.

   Yes, Christians do backslide -- to different degrees and for
different reasons. But they all have one thing in common: They are not
living as closely to the Lord as they once did. We can't help but
wonder what's going to happen to them. Will they lose their salvation?
Will God punish them? Can they get away with it? Is there a way back
home? These are vital questions.

   In today's lesson, therefore, let's examine four facts about the
Christian who is out of fellowship with the Lord; that is, the
backslider. They are as follows:

   1. He will not perish.

   2. He can expect chastening.

   3. He may die prematurely.

   4. he can be fully restored.

   The first truth about a born-again believer who has strayed away
from the Lord is this:

   He Will Not Perish

   A backslidden Christian cannot lost his salvation. Oh, I know that
he may feel as though he's lost. When he first realizes how deeply he
has fallen into sin, it may seem to him that God could never forgive
him. He hates himself for what he's doing, and he thinks that God must
hate him too. But feelings, we should remember, sometimes lie. And it's
a fact that once you are born again you can never lose your salvation.

   Now wait a minute! Don't turn me off. Give me a chance to explain. I
know very well what some people would tell me if they could. They'd
say, "Listen, preacher, don't give me any of the
you-can't-lose-your-salvation business. I know a man who claims he was
saved many years ago. He was active in church, testified to others of
his faith in Christ, and lived a Christian life for years. But then he
left his wife and became involved with another woman. He is now living
in deep sin. Do you mean to tell me that if he died right now he'd go
to heaven?"

   Let me say first that we must not build our doctrine on personal
experience, but on the Word of God. Second, we don't know the true
condition of that man's heart. Perhaps he was never saved in the first
place. Maybe he was just going through the motions. Only God knows for
sure. Stories like that, therefore, do not discredit the fact that a
person who has truly been converted to Christ cannot lose his
salvation. In fact, the very nature of our salvation would indicate
that it is an eternal transaction.

   Just think for a moment about all the wonderful things that happen
when we receive the Lord Jesus and experience salvation.

   We are united with Christ (Ephesians 2:13). We are born again (2
Corinthians 5:17). We are justified in God's sight (Romans 3:24). We
are baptized into the body of Christ (1 corinthians 12:13). We are
indwelt by the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19). We are sealed by the
Holy Spirit (Ephesians 1:13). We are made citizens of heaven (Ephesians
2:6).

   Think of the implications of these spiritual realities of salvation!
Would God unite us with His Son, only to destroy that oneness? Would He
through the new birth make us members of His family as "sons of God"
and "joint-heirs with Christ", only to undo that relationship? Would He
describe Christians as "sealed with the Holy Spirit of promise" and
then break that seal? Absolutely not! The very nature of salvation as a
life-giving, deep-seated transaction between God and us in itself gives
every indication that it is an eternal relationship. It's not a
on-again, off-again sort of thing. The Lord Jesus Himself suggested
this truth when He said:

   And this is the Father's will who hath sent Me, that of all that He
hath given Me I should lose nothing, but should raise it up again at
the last day (John 6:39).

   And in verse 47 of that chapter He promised, "Verily, verily, I say
unto you, He that believeth on Me hath everlasting life." Read also
these words of the Savior:

   My sheep hear My voice, and I know them, and they follow Me. And I
give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall
any man pluck them out of My hand. My Father, who gave them to Me, is
greater than all, and no man is able to pluck them out of My Father's
hand (John 10:27-29).

   Having received Christ as Savior, we have the assurance of eternal
life. Oh, we may disobey the Lord and stray into sin. Many years may
pass by. But if we have been genuinely born again, we can never be
lost. We remain God's children, members of His family. We do not lose
our salvation because of backsliding.

   A second truth about a wayward Christian must be emphasized.
Although a believer will not perish:

   He Can Expect Chastening

   In 1 Corinthians 11, the apostle Paul mentioned that some of the
Christians at Corinth were sick because of their misbehavior at the
table of the Lord. He wrote:

   For as often as ye eat this bread, and drink this cup, ye do show
the Lord's death till He come. Wherefore, whosoever shall eat this
bread, and drink this cup of the Lord, unworthily, shall be guilty of
the body and blood of the Lord. But let a man examine himself, and so
let him eat of that bread, and drink of that cup. For he that eateth
and drinketh unworthily, eateth and drinketh judgment to himself, not
discerning the Lord's body. For this cause many are weak and sickly
among you, and many sleep. For if we would judge ourselves, we should
not be judged. But when we are judged, we are chastened of the Lord,
that we should not be condemned with the world (1 Corinthians 11:26-32).

   Yes, the apostle Paul said, "For this cause many are weak and sickly
among you..." The Lord was apparently judging the sins of certain
believers through illness. Every child of God who disobeys the Lord can
expect His chastening hand. This is designed to bring him back home
into fellowship with the Heavenly Father. It is for the believer's own
benefit. The author of Hebrews recorded God's words as follows:

   ..My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint
when thou are rebuked of Him; For whom the Lord loveth He chasteneth,
and scourgeth every son whom He receiveth. If ye endure chastening, God
dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father
chasteneth not? (Hebrews 12:5-7).

   After King David had committed adultery with Bathsheba and had her
husband killed in battle, he was afflicted by the Lord. David described
his suffering in Psalm 32, verses 3 and 4, as follows:

   When I kept silence, my bones became old through my roaring all the
day long. For day and night Thy hand was heavy upon me; my moisture is
turned into the drought of summer.

   David confessed his sin to the Lord and received forgiveness. He
could therefore say:

   I acknowledged my sin unto Thee, and mine iniquity have I not
hidden. I said, I will confess my transgressions unto the Lord, and
Thou forgavest the iniquity of my sin (Psalm 32:5).

   And according to verses 1 and 2 of this psalm:

   Blessed is he whose transgression is forgiven, whose sin is covered.
Blesses is the man unto whom the Lord imputeth not iniquity, and in
whose spirit there is no guile.

   Before going on, let me give you a word of explanation. Some disease
or physical pain does come from the Lord as chastening. But that does
not mean every hurt or sickness is caused by unconfessed sin. If you
are confined to a bed today or stricken with a crippling disease, you
need not necessarily conclude that you are being chastened. The
infirmity may have come for some other reason.

   I am thinking about the man born blind. The disciples asked Jesus if
the man's blindness was due to some wickedness in his life. Jesus gave
this answer:

   Neither hath this man sinned, nor his parents, but that the works of
God should be made manifest in him (John 9:3).

   Keep in mind also that Paul's "thorn in the flesh" had no connection
with any disobedience on his part. Not all sickness, therefore, is
punishment for sin. But it certainly must be considered as a
possibility.

   Remember, then, that the backslider may be chastened by the Lord to
show him his sin and his need for repentance. That chastening sometimes
takes the form of illness. Search your heart carefully. And if there is
sin in your life, confess it to the Lord, forsake it, and accept God's
forgiveness.

   Thus far we have seen that even though a disobedient believer "will
never perish", he may experience chastening. This leads us to our third
truth about a backsliding Christian who is being judged for his sin:

   He May Die Prematurely

   In his warning to the Corinthians because of their abuses at the
Lord's Table, the apostle Paul said, "For this cause many are weak and
sickly among you, and many sleep" (1 Corinthians 11:30). Yes, some of
the believers in the church at Corinth had actually died because of
sin. This is the same kind of judgment the apostle John referred to as
the "sin unto death" (1 John 5:16).

   We have a striking example of this judgment in the early church.
Ananias and Sapphira had sold a piece of property. They claimed to have
given the proceeds to the church, but they had kept a portion for
themselves. Peter was given discernment about the matter, and after he
rebuked Ananias, the man fell dead. Three hours later, his wife died in
the same manner. This man and his wife (and we have no reason to doubt
that they were genuine believers) were judged severely by the Lord --
through death itself -- because of the gravity of their sin.

   Now, I realize that this is not God's usual way of working. But it
may well take place even today with those who persist in their evil way
and bring public reproach upon the cause of Christ.

   The fourth truth about the wayward Christian we want to discuss is
encouraging:

   He Can Be Fully Restored

   It is possible for backsliders to return to the favor and fellowship
of God. Yes, there is a way back home. The Heavenly Father wants to
forgive and bless that disobedient child of His who is willing to
confess and forsake his sin. The Lord takes no delight in chastening
His children. He would much rather be blessing them.

   The experience of the man in 1 Corinthians 6 who had sinned so
grievously with his stepmother comes to mind. Paul actually instructed
the church leaders: "To deliver such an one unto Satan for the
destruction of the flesh" (v. 5). This was not a vindictive command.
Rather, it was for the man's own benefit. It was, as the apostle went
on to say, "that the spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord Jesus"
(v. 5).

   That man repented, and his fellow believers were told by paul to
forgive him, to comfort him, and to confirm their love toward him (2
Corinthians 2:7, 8). The apostle's exhortation was evidence that God
had forgiven him. Others were to do the same.

   If you are truly born again, you can never lose your salvation. But
if you are out of fellowship with the Lord and you continue in your
sinful way, you can expect God to chasten you. He may send physical
affliction or financial reverses. He may even take away blessing and
favor. Acknowledge that your indifference and wickedness are sinful and
displeasing to the Lord. Confess your sin to Him. Then claim His
forgiveness. Ask for His power and help. Go back to church. Read your
Bible. And renew your Christian fellowships. Come home to the Lord
right now.

   THE WAY BACK HOME

   Have you heard the story about Barney, who had always been proud of
his thick, black, wavy hair? It began dropping out, and finally only
one lone strand remained. Awakening one morning, he looked at his
pillow and was shocked to see lying there that single, precious hair.
Jumping out of bed, he ran downstairs crying, "Martha, Martha, I'm
bald!"

   This is not to make fun of anyone whose hair is starting to thin. I
tell this story because it reminds me of Christians who begin dabbling
in the things of the world. They progressively wander farther and
farther from the Lord and deeper and deeper into sin. And they do so
without even realizing what's happening to them. It is not until they
have had some startling experience, perhaps due to divine chastening,
that they wake up and see their true condition before God. You see, the
devil leads the believer downward so slowly and gradually that he
doesn't even perceive what's going on. It is only when he is stripped
of his spiritual power that he finally becomes aware of his true
condition before God.

   I'm sure that some of you who read these words trusted Christ for
salvation many years ago, but today you are living in sin. You've
turned your back on the Lord. You are plagued with guilt. You are
miserable. If that describes you, then this concluding lesson on the
wayward Christian is especially for you. I want to point out the way
back home.

   In our first lesson we considered the marks of a backslidden
Christian - a lack of desire to spend time with fellow believers, no
interest in church attendance, an absence of sensitivity to sin, and
little concern for prayer or telling others about Christ.

   We then sought to identify some of the causes for backsliding. We
saw that usually it is a gradual process, starting with small things
and becoming more and more serious. As George Sweeting, former
President of Moody Bible Institute, expressed it, "Collapse in the
Christian life is rarely a blowout -- it's usually a slow leak." He's
right! It often begins by making a small concession to some weakness or
placing the earthly above the heavenly or taking the blessings of the
Christian life for granted. Before you know it, the bright flame of
faith and love for God has died down and the spiritual life has grown
cold.

   In our preceding lesson we discussed what can happen to a believer
who continues to live in sin. Although a person who has been born again
can never lose his salvation, he may be chastened through pain,
disappointment, or affliction. He might even die prematurely. The
apostle Paul mentioned that some of the believers at Corinth were sick,
and some died, because of their misbehavior at the table of the Lord.
"For this cause many are weak and sickly among you, and many sleep" (1
Corinthians 11:30).

   We can be thankful, however, that the way home is always open for
the Christian who truly wants the Lord's forgiveness. He still loves
you as His child, and He longs for your restoration.

   If you are wandering away from the Lord (whether you are just
beginning to let your love for Christ grow cold, or if you have been
living in sin for years), read very carefully as I outline three steps
in coming back to the Lord. They are suggested in the book of
Revelation, where the apostle John recorded these words of the living
Christ to the church at Ephesus:

   Remember, therefore, from where thou art fallen, and repent, and do
the first works, or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove
thy lampstand out of its place, except thou repent (Revelation 2:5).

   Three words in that verse, "remember", "repent", and "do the first
works", suggest three steps to be taken by a wayward believer in coming
back to the Lord. He should:

   * REMEMBER his former life with Christ.

   * REPENT of his sin.

   * RENEW his life of obedience and faith.

   The first step in returning to the Lord is:

   REMEMBER

   Think back for a moment on the pleasures and delights of the
Christian life you enjoyed right after your conversion: the thrill of
having your sins forgiven, the satisfaction you found in Bible reading,
the blessings of attending church, and the fellowship and the special
closeness you felt with the Heavenly Father when you prayed. You loved
Christ -- even to the point of being willing to die for Him. You shared
with others what He had done for you. You cherished the sense of
complete forgiveness and acceptance by God. Your life was characterized
by prayer and faith in God's Word. Yes, your awareness of the Lord and
your love for His people were wonderful. But that was long ago. Things
have changed. Now you must say with William Cowper, the songwriter:

   Where is the blessedness I knew When first I saw the Lord? Where is
the soul- refreshing view Of Jesus and His Word?

   If you are a backslidden believer, I would admonish you in the words
of our test, "Remember, therefore, from where thou are fallen".

   In the crucial issues of life, memory is truly a blessed gift. Time
and again the love between a husband and wife is rekindled through the
recollection of their days of courtship and their first happy years of
marriage. Think also how many a man, hardened by sin, has been touched
by a song reminding him of his childhood and mother.

   The American writer O. Henry, in one of his short stories, portrayed
the force of memory. He told of a man who, as a lad in a country
school, sat beside a sweet, innocent young girl. As he grew into
manhood, he fell into bad company and became a thief. One day, while
congratulating himself upon successfully picking a man's pocket, he saw
coming down the street that former classmate, still as beautiful and
purelooking as ever. Overwhelmed at how low he had fallen by
comparison, he ducked into a side street, leaned his head against a
lamppost, and cried out to God, "Oh, how I hate myself!" His memory had
shown him how loathsome he had become.

   Yes, friend, remember! Reflect upon those happy days when the Lord
Jesus was real and precious to you. As you do, you'll be taking that
first step back to God and to a restoration of the sweet fellowship you
once enjoyed with Him. You'll then be ready for that second step in
coming back home:

   REPENT

   You'll recall that in Revelation 2:5, Jesus not only said
"remember", but He asked the word "repent". He said, "Remember,
therefore, from where thou art fallen, and repent."

   The word "repent" means "to change one's mind". It involves viewing
something differently. This is what we are to do when we grow cold
spiritually and find ourselves in a backslidden condition. We are to
excuse or condone our sin no longer! We are to view it as God does. We
should see it as being wrong and abhorrent in His sight. Then we are to
confess our disobedience to the Lord, renounce our sin, and accept His
pardon. When we truly repent, we may be sure that the Lord will forgive
our sin and receive us back into fellowship with Him.

   I realize that this can be a very painful process. It's never easy
to admit we've been doing wrong. As we face squarely our disobedience
to the Lord, we may have feelings of sorrow and remorse. We may grieve
to think of the hours we have wasted or the people we have hurt. We may
have shed tears over the dishonor we have brought to the Lord's name.
In fact, I wish we would see more weeping over sin.

   Repentance is indeed an important step for the wayward Christian to
take in coming home. You must change your attitude toward your
behavior. Admit that your disobedience to His will is nothing less than
sin. Confess it to the Lord. Accept His forgiveness. Instead of trying
to justify your actions or seeking to blame others for wandering away,
take the responsiblilty yourself. Be willing to say, "I have sinned.
It's my fault. I am sorry."

   A third step in coming back home to fellowship with the Lord:

   RENEW

   After encouraging the believers at Ephesus to remember and to
repent, the risen Christ told them to "do the first words" (Revelation
2:5). It might be helpful to read that admonition in its context.

   Unto the angel of the church of Ephesus write: These things saith He
that holdeth the seven stars in His right hand, who walketh in the
midst of the seven golden lampstands. I know thy works, and thy labor,
and thy patience, and how thou canst not bear them who are evil; and
thou hast tried them who say they are apostles, and are not, and hast
found them liars; And hast borne, and hasst patience, and for My name's
sake hast labored, and hast not fainted. Nevertheless, I have somewhat
against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. Remember,
therefore, from where thou are fallen, and repent, and do the first
works, or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy
lanpstand out of its place, except thou repent (Revelation 2:1-5).

   According to verse 4, the Christians in the church at Ephesus had
left their "first love". They were therfore to remember, to repent, and
to do their "first works". They were to duplicate the zeal of their
former life of faith and obedience. Their love for Christ was no longer
as fervent as it used to be.

   We have all seen something like that happen in marriages. A husband,
for instance, becomes so engrossed in his own personal interests that
he begins to take his wife for granted. Oh, he's faithful in his
financial support and in coming home every night. But the way he
speaks, looks, and listens soon betrays his departure from his first
love. What must be done to recapture it? Well, that husband needs to
pay more attention to his wife, just as he used to. He should notice
little things, respond to her needs, do things to please her, and to
tell her every day, "I love you".

   So too, the backslidden believer must "do the first works". He has
to rekindle that "first love". He has to begin serving the Lord again.
It's not enough for him just to remember and repent. He must also do!
There must be a changed life. He must return to church, read his Bible,
pray, and live in obedience to the Word of God. Doing this, he will
once again know the joy and satisfaction of walking with the Lord.

   If you are in a backslidden condition and are far away from the
Lord, I'd like to repeat for you those three steps in coming home:

   Step 1: Remember. Think back upon the joys of former days. Recall
the happiness that was yours when you were first saved, when you were
faithful in fellowshipping with other believers and diligent in serving
the Lord. But don't stop there. Even though a sentimental recollection
of the past (godly parents, a Christian home, and inspiring church
services) can be a tremendous help in bringing you back to God, it will
not in itself solve your spiritual problem. Having remembered the
blessings you once experienced, you must be willing to make another
move.

   Step 2: Repent. Change your mind about the way you are living. Agree
with God that it's wrong. Accept the blame. Claim His forgiveness.

   Step 3: Renew. If you have truly repented, it will show in what you
do. After renouncing your sin, live again the life of obedience that
once was yours.

   Remember, repent, and renew! You have not really found the way back
to God until you have taken all three of these steps.

   I would like to close with a word of warning for those to whom these
lessons have been especially directed -- believers who have wandered
away from God and are now living in sin. Listen, friend, if you persist
in your life of disobedience, God will certainly chasten you. He may
even take your life. The blessing and joy of the walk of faith will not
return until you come back to the Lord. Therefore take the three steps
we talked about in this lesson. Life is so brief. The opportunities for
serving Christ are limited. And beyond lies eternity. So, humble
yourself before God and remember, repent, and renew. Live the way you
did before you left your "first love". You do your part, and God will
do His! Come home to God. As you do, you'll want to say with the
hymnwriter:

   I've wasted many precious years -- Now I'm coming home; I now repent
with bitter tears -- Lord, I'm coming home.

   --- Scripture quotations are from the New King James Version, (c)
1979, 1980, 1982, Thomas Nelson, Inc., Publishers.

   "The Way Back" by Richard W. De Haan. Copyright 1990 Radio Bible
Class, Grand Rapids, Michigan. Used by Permission.
