Subject: Judaism Reading List: Intermarriage (Pt. XI)
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              Selected Sources for Additional Reading on Judaism
                            Part XI: Intermarriage
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This list provides a collection of sources on the subject of intermarriage for
the readers of soc.culture.jewish.  This list is not attempting to present a
position either for or against intermarriage; that is up to the individual to
decide in consultation with their Rabbi. This list does attempt to include
books from all sides of the spectrum, so that educated consideration can be
given to the subject.

Intermarriage is a serious concern in the Jewish community. According to the
1991 issue of Newsweek, 52% of men and women who have married since 1985 took
gentiles as spouses (in 1964, the number was 9%). Furthermore, 3 of every 4
children of intermarriages are being raised either as Christians (41%) or with
no religion at all (31%). The issue stated that 60% of Reform Jews, 50% of
Conservative Jews, and 25% of Orthodox Jews are intermarried, and at many
Reform Shabbat services a third or more of the participants are unconverted
spouses. Now these numbers may have inaccuracies, but the concern and trends
remain the same regardless of the exact value of the numbers.

Information on where to obtain these books, including an explanation of the
<INP> and <JPS> notations, may be found in Part I of the Reading List
(judaism/reading-lists/general).

This list is organized as a digest; it may be successfully undigestified by
programs such as "gnus".

Information on where the reading lists are archived, and how all pieces of the
FAQ and Reading Lists may be obtained by anonymous FTP or other means may be
found at the end of this posting.

Reproduction of this posting for commercial use is subject to restriction. See
Part 1 (general) for more details.

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Subject: XI.1. SO YOU'RE CONSIDERING INTERMARRIAGE?

[For91] Forster, Brenda and Tabachnik, Joseph. _Jews by Choice: A Study of
        Converts to Reform and Conservative Judaism_. K'tav, Hoboken NJ. ISBN
        0-88125-378-2.  1991.

[Kem87] Kemelman, Harry. _Conversations with Rabbi Small_. Ballantine Books.
        1987. 

[Pet88] Petsonk, Judy and Jim Remsen.  _The Intermarriage Handbook: A Guide
        for Jews and Christians_.  Quill/William Morrow, New York. 1988. [This
        book explains basis of each other's culture, and guidelines on how to
        proceed.] 

[Rom90] Romanoff, Lena. _Your People, My People -- Finding Acceptance and
        Fulfillment as a Jew By Choice_. Jewish Publication Society,
        Philadelphia PA. 1990. [Focuses on conversion, but gives insights on
        intermarriage and how to make conversion work.  Non-Orthodox]

[Sel??] Seltzer, Sanford. _Jews and Non-Jews: Falling in Love_. UAHC Press
        #164050. [Informal guide on intermarriage for couples and their
        families. Non-Orthodox]

[Sel84] Seltzer, Sanford. _Jews and Non-Jews: Getting Married: A Look At
        Interfaith Marriage and its Consequences for Jewish Survival_. UAHC
        Press #164055. New York, NY. 1984. [Discussion for couples
        contemplating intermarriage from the Reform Jewish perspective.]

        B'nai B'rith Women's quarterly publication, _Women's World_, regularly
        has articles on intermarriage. For information, contact the BBW
        Membership Department, 1828 L St. NW, #250, Washington, DC. 20036.

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Subject: XI.2. THE TRADITIONAL VIEWPOINT

[Bra51] Brav, Stanley Rosenbaum, ed. _Marriage and the Jewish Tradition_
        Philosophical Library, New York. 1951.

[Pra81] Prager, Dennis and Telushkin, Joseph. _The Nine Questions People
        Ask About Judaism_. Schuster, New York. 1981. ISBN 0-671-62261 [In
        particular, there is a chapter on "Intermarriage and the Non-committed
        Jew".] <INP>

[Sto67] Stolper, [Rabbi] Pinchas M.  _Jewish Alternatives in Love, Dating and
        Marriage_.  Lanham, MD: University Press of America, Inc. 1967,1984.
        Co-published by the NCSY.

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Subject: XI.3. CONVERSION

[Coh87] Cohen, J. Simcha. _Intermarriage and Conversion, A Halakhic Solution_.
        KTAV Publishing House, Hoboken NJ. 1987. [A proposed "solution" to
        these problems.  A analysis looking for common ground between
        Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform conversions.]

[Eic65] Eichhorn, D.M., (ed.) _ Conversion to Judaism: A History and
        Analysis_.  Ktav: Hoboken, NJ. 1965. [A historical perspective on
        conversion.]

[Ell??] Ellinson, David. _Representative Orthodox Responsa on Conversion and
        Intermarriage in the Contemporary Era_ Jewish Social Studies #47 p.209
        [A summary and analysis of several responsa of contemporary poskim.
        See related references in the article.]

[Eps92] Epstein, Lawrence J. _Theory and Practice of Welcoming Converts to
        Judaism: Jewish Univeralism_. E. Mellen Press, Lewiston NY. 1992.

[Eps93] Epstein, Lawrence J. _Conversion to Judaism: a Teaching Guide_.
        Coalition for the Advancement of Jewish Education/261 West 35th Street
        Floor 12A/New York NY 10001. 1993. [Pamphlet. Discusses conversion,
        including a historical summary and descriptions of Orthodox,
        Conservative and Reform views and procedures. Contains a bibliography,
        summaries of the lives of some famous Jews-by-choice, and exercises to
        familiarize students with issues surrounding conversion.]

[Eps94] Epstein, Lawrence J. _Conversion To Judaism: A Guidebook_. Jason
        Aronson Inc. 1994. [Discusses stories about converts, the conversion
        process, how to overcome common problems associated with conversion
        and includes introductory material on Jewish thought and practices.
        Note: Lawrence Epstein is on the net and can be reached at
        <LEPSTEIN@ccvm.sunysb.edu>]  

[Fel90] Feldman, Emanuel, and Wolowelsky, Joel, eds.. _The Conversion Crisis,
        Essays from the Pages of TRADITION_.  edited by KTAV Publishing House,
        Hoboken NJ. 1990. [A collection of essays on conversion, mostly
        halachic in character.]

[Fio92] Fiorino, Anthony.  "One Soul's Adventure: Spiritual Growth Through
        Halacha" in _Jewish Action_. Orthodox Union (O-U). Vol 53 #2, winter
        1992/93. [An account of a personal experience as a ger, and the
        spiritual growth that resulted]

[Hub??] Huberman, Steven. _New Jews: The Dynamics of Conversion_. UAHC Press
        No. 164053. [Concise investigation into the impact of conversion on
        the convert and the family.]

[Kuk81] Kukoff, Lydia. _Choosing Judaism_. Feldman Library Fund/UAHC Press No.
        381775. UAHC Press, New York NY. 1981. [The story of one woman's
        odyssey from Christianity to Judaism, which confronts the questions
        and dilemmas of the new Jew.]

[Lam91] Lamm, Maurice. _Becoming a Jew_. Jonathan David Publishers: Middle
        Village, NY. 1991. [Designed expressly for non-Jews who are
        contemplating converting. Contains a section on the experiences of
        (halachic) converts, in their own words, then an examination of the
        laws of conversion, then an examination of after the
        conversion--dealing with Jews, with one's family, holidays, etc.
        Finally, a section on basic Jewish practice and belief.  Lamm is a
        prominant Orthodox rabbi.]  <Available through Hamakor Judaica,
        800-426-2567, Item# 21352>

[Lam74] Lamm, Norman.  "Love of the Stranger," in _The Good Society: Jewish
        Ethics in Action_.  N. Lamm, ed.  Viking Press: New York, NY, 1974. [A
        series of excerts from the Rambam (t'shuvot and mishnah torah)
        relating to Conversion with an introduction by Rabbi Lamm.]

[Lub??] Lubling, Aaron.  "Conversion in Jewish Law" in _Journal of Halachah
        and Contemporary Society_, #9. [A halachic analysis that points to
        many of the relevent gemaras and dinim in the Shulchan Aruch and in
        contemporary t'shuvot.]

[Rom90] Romanoff, Lena. _Your People, My People -- Finding Acceptance and
        Fulfillment as a Jew By Choice_. Jewish Publication Society,
        Philadelphia PA. 1990. [Includes good coverage of the differences in
        conversion practices between the three main branches of Judaism. Gives
        insights on how to make conversion work.  Non-Orthodox]

[Sca92] Scalamanti, J.D.  _Ordained to be a Jew: A Catholic Priest's
        conversion to Judaism_.  Ktav: Hoboken, NJ, 1992. ISBN
        0-88125-412-6. [The story of a Catholic priest who became a Jew.]

[Sch85] Schiffman, Lawrence _Who Was a Jew?_ (Hoboken, NJ: Ktav, 1985). [A
        historical analysis of the Jewish-Christian schism, attempting to
        determine the point at which Christianity was no longer viewed by
        Judaism as a sect, but rather as a Gentile religion. See especially
        chapter 3, which deals with conversion.]

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Subject: XI.4. YOU'VE DONE THE DEED. COPING WITH LIFE AS AN INTERMARRIED

[Bel85] Belin, David. _Why Choose Judaism: New Dimensions of Jewish Outreach_.
        UAHC Press #381900 ISBN 0-8074-0302-4. New York, NY. 1985
        [Non-Orthodox. Explores the uniqueness of Judaism and its special
        roles in America today. Designed for partners in an interfaith
        relationship.]

[CCA91] Commission on Reform Jewish Outreach. _What Is Reform Jewish
        Outreach?_. Union of American Hebrew Congregations and Central
        Conference of American Rabbis, 838 Fifth Avenue, NY NY 10021,
        212/249-0100. Pamphlet. 1991. [Non-Orthodox]

[Cow88] Cowan, Paul and Rachel. _Mixed Blessings: Overcoming the Stumbling
        Blocks in an Interfaith Marriage_. Penguin Books, New York NY. 1988.
        [Describes the interpersonal conflicts that can come from different
        religious backgrounds and how major life changes (death of a parent,
        birth of a child) can bring up conflicts.  Focuses on how to deal with
        religious identity and practice with children in mixed marriages.
        (Authors had a mixed marriage, Rachel has converted and has become a
        rabbi) Non-Orthodox]

[Kin??] King, Andrea. _If I'm Jewish and You're Christian, What are the
        Kids?_. Commission on Reform Jewish Outreach. #571202. 

[Lit70] Litvin, Baruch. _Jewish Identity: Modern Responsa and Opinions on the
        Registration of Children of Mixed Marriages_. Feldheim, Jerusalem-New
        York. 1970. [Answers by 43 leading Jewish scholars (both religious and
        otherwise) to "Who is a Jew?"]

[Ros88] Rosenberg, Roy A.; Meehan, Peter; and Payne, John Wade. _Happily
        Inter-married: Authoritative Advice for a Joyous Jewish-Christian
        Marriage_. [Written by a Protestant priest, a Roman Catholic priest,
        and a Reform Jewish rabbi, offers insights to couples seriously
        considering a permanent bireligious relationship.]

[Reu87] Reuben, Steven Carr. _But How Will You Raise the Children?: A Guide To
        Interfaith Marriage_. New York : Pocket Books, 1987.

[Reu92] Reuben, Steven Carr. _Raising Jewish Children in a Contemporary World:
        The Modern Parent's Guide to Creating a Jewish Home_ Rocklin, CA :
        Prima Pub., 1992. 

[Reu93] Reuben, Steven Carr. _Making Interfaith Marriage Work_. l993.

[Ros94] Rosenbaum, Mary Helene and Rosenbaum, Stanley Ned. _Celebrating Our
        Differences: Living Two Faiths in One Marriage_. Shippensburg, PA :
        Ragged Edge Press ; Boston, Ky. : Black Bear Productions, 1994.

[Sil93].Silverstein, Alan. _Dual Faith Parenting, Second Thoughts on a Popular
        Trend_.  The Federation of Jewish Men's Clubs, Inc., New York, NY.
        1993. [Pamphlet giving strong reasons against trying to raise the
        child of a mixed marriage with both faiths. Conservative viewpoint.]

Readers might also be interested in:

Dovetail: A Newsletter by and For Jewish-Christian Families.  Back issues
available on weddings, grandparents, media portrayal, religious education,
conversion, welcoming ceremonies, therapy, death.....and more.  E-mail
address: hawxhurst@aol.com

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Subject: Archival and Credits

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Credits:
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  moderator of the Intermarriage Mailing List. Contributions to the list have
  also been made by: Chris Bertholf, Dave Rabinowitz, Ari Epstein, Anthony
  Fiorino, Joshua Goldman and David Kaufmann.  As usual, suggestions for
  additions or deletions are welcome, as are *brief* annotations for any
  entry.

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